Imam Nabvi's Forty Hadith # 15 Part 1

Imam Nawawi : Forty Hadith : 27th September 2012
By Sister Eman Al Obaid.

Hadith number 15:

مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلْيَقُلْ خَيْراً أَوْ لِيَصْمُتْ، وَمَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلْيُكْرِمْ جَارَهُ، وَمَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلْيُكْرِمْ ضَيْفَهُ

رَوَاهُ البُخَارِيُّ وَمُسْلِمٌ

Abu Hurairah, radiyallahu 'anhu, reported that the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam, said:
"Let whosoever believes in Allah and in the Last Day either speak good or be silent. Let whosoever believes in Allah and in the Last Day honour his neighbour. Let whosoever believes in Allah and in the Last Day honour his guest."
[Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
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Hadith consists of two parts,one,the first part is the As sanad السنوwhich is the chain of narrators,Abu Hurairah heard this hadith and the rest is called Al matan المتن which is the subject.

Abu Hurairaah heard this Hadith being told by Nabi Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم.man kana yumin billahi wa you mil aakhirii.فليكريم Fal yukrim, is a command,repeated three times.there are three commands,but before the command there are few conditions needed which is the common sentence man kana cumin billahi you mil aakhir, which means that the only the person who fulfills the belief in Allah and day of Judgement .this is the way of prophet صلى الله عليه وسلمto make you understand by softening your heart ,to encourage people and get the  attention of the people so prophet  صلى الله عليه وسلمrepeats,this is the reason our Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم says that the one who fulfills the three commands ( this is a sign of true belief,reflects on your attitude) ,especially our talking with neighbors, guests,manners,it comes only if you have belief in Allah and last day.This is about ikhlaaq,good manners.

Our job in life is to increase our faith in Allah subhaanaa wa ta aala,it is in the  heart,faith is in heart and the indicator is outside the heart.no one can see the faith in the heart but the indicator is seen from outside,about faith we know there are six pillars of faith,arkaan ul emaan ( faith in Allah,in rasoulihi,in kutubihi,in malaikah,in day of judgement and the divine decree),but here only two mentioned here as it is important to reform our character and manners,belief in Allah and day of judgement.our goal should be clear,if we are asked to select one then it should be to believe in Allah.To know that there is Allah ,He Exists and He is perfect in everything and I need to attach myself in everything with Allah about reliance,guidance,provision etc.our job is to be attached to Allah in everything.so our goal in the beginning should be clear,to know Allah.
The scholar said that he used everything that he saw in duniya he would use it to think about Allah.so use the signs  in duniya to know Allah.Use the ayaat of Allah in duniya to know him more,these are signs of Allah ,it will get you attached to Allah.

What will keep you motivated all the time when you know that there is  the last day.your goal is clear .when you know that one day i have to depart then you will be at standby all the time,when you are constantly reminded that you have to leave and go to Allah ,then the ummat muhaammad صلى الله عليه وسلم will make their vision clear.day of judgement will start the moment you die.So this will keep you on your toes.SubhanAllah when everyone remembers that one day we will die,then everything will be easy.for egs we have seen that people spend years fighting amongst themselves ,this is just waste of energy,what should we tell them ,remind them that one day this person will die and the other person will die.Nothing is perfect,if we think that if any issue ,they will die you will die them problems will be resolved.
If you want to reform your ikhlaaq , resolve an issue ,fast way ,a quick fix ,if you think  that you are meeting for the last time.Just by thinking ,it will change your ikhlaaq.this is the reality ,it will correct an individual.
One is about the goal and the other about motive to keep you going,the first thing that prophet  صلى الله عليه وسلم asked us to do,very gentle commands,indirect,fal yaqul let him say,the first sign ,the more you have faith in Allah and Day of Judgement:
Bismillah, remember we cannot do it on our own so ask for Allah'shelp,istianaabillah:

1) fal Yaqul khayran aw yasmutt .او ليصمت  فليقل خىر

Let him to speak good ,start with something positive,always start by giving possibilities,give the good alternative,options,then say if not.what should be my statement ,of khair good words,the kalaam means the speech or ,statement ,it can be of  three kinds,the first one is kalaam khair,then kalaam sharr & kalaam laghuw .

Kalaam khair :Good talk: will give you reward (+)
kalaam Sharr :Evil talk: will give u minus ( -)
Kalaam Laghuww :Vain talk: neutral ( zero)

If we need to speak then we must speak khairan.only good talk.the first option is to speak khair ,if not then be completely silent,extremely quiet.this means that before I speak either I should speak good or I should remain quiet.so I must think twice before saying as statements can be of three types.SubhanAllah.
If we believe in the last day then we must control.
If it is not khair then we need to remain quiet.what is kalaam khair?

Sharr kalaam:

Examples of evil talk,Mocking insulting backbiting,spreading wrong news,to scold people.reminding people of favours,slandering , talk what you hear without verifying, ,curse people,ppl,spreading rumors,backbiting,this is mentioned that it is haraam,it  is kalaam al shar.May Allah make it easy to help us and not fall into this type of sin,

kalaam khair:
Khair can be of two types .

1)Kalaam al zaathee : الزاتهis good by itself like Quran by itself,Praising Allah, SubhanAllah,alhamdulilah,duaa ,knowledge ,Quran, Hadith ,advising peope,,Amr bin maaruf,helping ppl with your words, all this by itself is good.

2)khayrun fi muraadihi في المرادبه

Out of love saying words,as a result a person will be happy.this includes in khair,to make peoplehappy with intention,by itself is an ibaadaat,this is khair.the consequence is khair ,by making people happy by saying nicely.

VAIN TALK : Laghuw: لغو

Like discussing about politics, and cricket or football match,this is a problem.laghuw is tricky it can lead to backbiting or towards evil.this is the reason it is said in arabic ,that if the kalaam is from silver then to be silent is from Gold,more valuable.when we are silent then we will jot regret as at times even with vain talk we regret,once you have said it the harm is done,the consequence of evil is worse so it's better to be quiet.This part of Hadith encourages us to think before we talk,so prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم has encouraged us to safeguard our tongue,so that we do not fall into sinning.

When Muaadh ibn jabal died then the throne of Allah shook when he died.So imagine how close this Sahabah is to Allah subhanaata'ala.
To this sahaba our prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم advised him in a Hadith about so many things a person must do and one of the thing that our prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said was don't you want to know about what is that thing that if you have control over means you have control over everything,then he pointed to the tongue and said to ' stop this'.SubhanAllah.
Once prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said to AbuBakr Siddiq RA,holding his tongue that this will take you to destruction.Prophetصلى الله عليه وسلمt  said control your tongue as it will lead to destruction.

Then Muaad ibn Jabal asked the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم,that ya Rasoulallah,صلى الله عليه وسلم,will Allah account us for very word that we speak,then prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said that what will make people to be thrown in hellfire on their faces will the words that they have spoken!
Sometimes a word that you said without thinking ,will take you into hellfire for Allahu Allam how many years!
This is hadith of Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم.so the solution is to guard our tongue and what will get you busy in controlling your tongue is your faith in Allah and the day of Judgement.Actually your tongue will say things which is in your heart,for egs if I am jealous it will show in my words,if I am angry it will show in my tongue.
So how to control your tongue,just increase your faith in Allah,then you will not care of what People said ,you will not waste time judging people.people are sitting in gathering backbiting,talking about inlaws,joking or discussing the maid or politics and the end they will take all the sin and leave the gathering!

Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said that believe in Allah and the day of judgment ,and when we speak less then there is less distraction,as before you speak  you are more conscious of what you are saying.with the speech,kalaam ,there is more regret.

To guard the tongue is an indicator,a dhaleel,a proof of steadfastness of the heart.What will make you have istiqaamaa,have taqwaa,steadfastness is by guarding your tongue.It will help your heart to have taqwaa,this is the reason it is said that the mutaqee,will not say whatever he feels ,for egs if you are angry then control your heart,don't utter as you may hurt someone!

Kalaam is a desire,of human being!Just like food and drink is desire ,so is the kalaam is desire.this is the reason to have vain talk is disliked!Vain talk will neither give you hasn't nor give you evil but it will affect your heart, this is the reason the salaf said that excess eating,excess drink and excess talking leads to hardening of heart .for egs if you want to pray your heart will not be there!

Omar Bin Khattab RA said that The one who speaks more then he more he will fail, he will slip more and if someone fails then he will have more sins.Therefore it is recommended that if somebody wants to speak then increase in speaking in good.

If you love to speak then speak in good,like kalaamallah ,kalaam nabi صلى الله عليه وسلم,use it to kalaam khair.it is also said that Don't waste even in one hour without speaking good.As the Hadith of Nabiصلى الله عليه وسلم said that not a group of people will sit in a gathering for an hour without mentioning Allah's name and prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم name except that on the Day of Judgement ,they will have regrets.it will be a regret of DOJ,meaning a very uncomfortable situation.therefore we must increase in our good talk and decrease in  vain talk.anything we utter there are two angels,they are writing constantly ,so should we control our tongue.

What brings problem between people is the kalaam,it brings more harm between people ,so this Hadith explains about guarding our tongue,not only with the family,children but also the servants who serve us.

We see how our prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم was with his servant,Anas.Anas Said that he served prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم for ten years and he صلى الله عليه وسلم never ever uttered even a "uff" to him.He صلى الله عليه وسلم never questioned me "why you did not do this" nor did he صلى الله عليه وسلم said that "why you did this".He صلى الله عليه وسلمnever scolded Anas for anything wrong or even questioned him if he missed doing something.SubhanAllah ,imagine the level of patience of our Nabi صلى الله عليه وسلم.

So we must remember that everyone is there for a reason,your maid is a test for you,in order that you are more patient.This is how a Muslim should be ,he guards his tongue.if the word is khair then I should say it if not then I should be silent.