The Life of the Barzakh :By Sister Awatif Al Hashmi

LIFE OF THE BARZAKH:The Inevitable journey.... By Sister Awatif Al Hashmi

Date: 5th May 2012
Venue: Markaz Al Huda ; At Towar

Definition of Barzakh:

Linguistically barzakh means a barrier,a veil.Allah describes in Quran that the two sea water do not meet,one is salty water and the other sweet water ,so they don't meet ,due to a barzakh a barrier.

Surah Al Furqaan :25:53

وَهُوَ الَّذِي مَرَجَ الْبَحْرَيْنِ هَٰذَا عَذْبٌ فُرَاتٌ وَهَٰذَا مِلْحٌ أُجَاجٌ وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَهُمَا بَرْزَخًا وَحِجْرًا مَّحْجُورًا

And He it is Who has made two seas to flow freely, the one sweet that subdues thirst by its sweetness, and the other salt that burns by its saltness; and between the two He has made a barrier and inviolable obstruction.

The minute a person dies he enters into Barzakh.Al Barzakh is a stage between this world and hereafter,it is the stage before the day of qiyaamaah,judgment day .
As a Muslim we need to believe in Hereafter.This is one of the pillars of faith to believe in Hereafter.The last day in this world is the first day of Hereafter.

Once a man asked prophet salalaho alaihi wassalam ,when is the hour?
Prophet salalaho alaihi wassalam said that what have you prepared for it...

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Details of Hadith:
Anas bin Maalik, may Allaah be pleased with him, said that a man asked the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam: "When will the (last) hour come?" He sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam replied: “What have you done to prepare for it?” The man replied: "Nothing, except the love I have for Allaah and His Messenger." The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam replied: “You will be (on the Day of Judgment) with those whom you love.” Anas bin Maalik, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: "We (his companions) never rejoiced at anything more than his words, when he said “You will be (on the Day of Judgment) with those whom you love.”’ Anas, may Allaah be pleased with him, continued: "I love the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, Abu Bakr and ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with them both, and I hope to be with them (in the Hereafter) due to my love for them, even if I cannot do (the same amount of righteous deeds) as they do." (Bukhaari, Muslim and others).
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The day a person dies ,it is the day his aakhiraah begins,the day we leave the duniya the hisaab starts.  When we are alive in the dunya ,it is the time to do good deeds,good Aamal. In this world ,we have a mission accomplish which is from Allah's mercy, its a Rahmaah from Allah for us to study about the Deen , be informed about the aakhirah.

All of us, as believers, have to change the concept of how people speak these days about death.  All the prophets taught us about the hereafter ,so we should prepare for it so that we do not regret on that day. It is upon us not to be deceived in the duniya.if we believe in youm al Aakhir,then you will have a good life in duniya and Aakhirah. Those who do not believe in youm al Aakhira,  they run behind their desires to get fill in life thinking that the day they die,  life ends there,but Alhamdulilah life does not end there.The eternal life begins...

Allah asks in the Quran that,Do you think Allah has brought you without a reason?

Allah did not leave us in darkness after sending us in dunya,HE sent messengers, Quran and shareeah( Islamic laws) to guide us.The last messenger HE sent is prophet Muhammad salalaho alaihi wassalam  to the entire mankind and Allah took it upon Himself to preserve and protect the Quran till the end of times.

Golden words:

We are living in duniya in transition,so in a Hadeeth prophet salalaho alaihi wassalam said that live in duniya as a traveller.
On the authority of Abdullah ibn Umar (May Allah be pleased with them both), he relates that the Prophet (Peace be upon him) once held my shoulders and said:
“Live in this world as (if you are) a wayfarer or a stranger.” And Abdullah ibn Umar (May Allah be pleased with them both) used to say: “If you live till night, then do not wait for the next day (i.e. do not have hopes that you will live to the next day), and if you wake up in the morning do not have hope that you will live till the night. And take (advantage) from your health before your sickness and take advantage of your life before your death (i.e. do every possible obedience in your life before death comes to you for then no deeds can be performed.)” [Bukhari and Tirmidhi]

Prophet salallaho  alaihi wassalam said that I am in duniya like a rider who took rest under the shade of the tree and left .
Details of this Hadith : As prophet Muhammad salallaho alaihi wassalam so eloquently said:“What relationship do I have with this world? I am in this world like a rider who halts in the shade of a tree for a short time, and after taking some rest, resumes his journey leaving the tree behind.” (Ahmad, Tirmidhi)

Hassan al Basiree said that you have come to duniya alone,you will die alone and you will be resurrected and accounted alone!
Another scholar said that: human beings are passing day, he said :Son of Adam! Ibn Adam you are like  days ,with every passing day each part of you is going..Some people say that I am still not prepared for aakhirah, I will repent on lailatul Qadr night,some say only after Haj I will do Taubah,some say that after Ramadan I will and so forth ....... !

Allah subha 'ana wa ta'ala said to the prophet salalalaho alaihi wassalam in a revelation brought by Gabriel when the prophet salalalho alaihi wassalam was alive,stating that YOU ya Mohammed ( pbuh) will die and ALL will die..

So we should remember that death is inevitable and in the end there will be hisaab..

It is reported from Al-Hasan Al-Basrî – Allâh have mercy on him – that he said:
The life of this world is made up of three days: yesterday has gone with all that was done; tomorrow, you may never reach; but today is for you so do what you should do today.[Al-Bayhaqî, Al-Zuhd Al-Kabeer, p.197]

Allah subhaa'ana wa ta' ala describes this world in many places in Quran:
Surah al Ankabut: 64

وَمَا هَٰذِهِ الْحَيَاةُ الدُّنْيَا إِلَّا لَهْوٌ وَلَعِبٌ وَإِنَّ الدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ لَهِيَ الْحَيَوَانُ لَوْ كَانُوا يَعْلَمُونَ
“What is the life of this world but amusement and play? But verily the Home in the Hereafter,- that is life indeed, if they but knew.” (29: 64)

Surah Al Kahf:(18:7)

إِنَّا جَعَلْنَا مَا عَلَى الْأَرْضِ زِينَةً لَّهَا لِنَبْلُوَهُمْ أَيُّهُمْ أَحْسَنُ عَمَلًا
Surely We have made whatever is on the earth an adornment for it, so that We may try them (as to) which of them is best in deeds.

Surah Yunus :( 10:24)
إِنَّمَا مَثَلُ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا كَمَاءٍ أَنزَلْنَاهُ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ فَاخْتَلَطَ بِهِ نَبَاتُ الْأَرْضِ مِمَّا يَأْكُلُ النَّاسُ وَالْأَنْعَامُ حَتَّىٰ إِذَا أَخَذَتِ الْأَرْضُ زُخْرُفَهَا وَازَّيَّنَتْ وَظَنَّ أَهْلُهَا أَنَّهُمْ قَادِرُونَ عَلَيْهَا أَتَاهَا أَمْرُنَا لَيْلًا أَوْ نَهَارًا فَجَعَلْنَاهَا حَصِيدًا كَأَن لَّمْ تَغْنَ بِالْأَمْسِ كَذَٰلِكَ نُفَصِّلُ الْآيَاتِ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
The likeness of this world's life is only as water which We send down from the cloud, then the herbage of the earth of which men and cattle eat grows luxuriantly thereby, until when the earth puts on its golden raiment and it becomes garnished, and its people think that they have power over it, Our command comes to it, by night or by day, so We render it as reaped seed; produce, as though it had not been in existence yesterday; thus do We make clear the communications for a people who reflect.

Allah says with parable,know that this life is la'ib means play, entertainment ,zinnia,decoration, show off and multiply your children and wealth as if there is raining, the farmer becomes happy seeing the rain and his plants grow from a little sapling into a green plant,then it gradually withers,turns yellow,then it dries,then it die this is exactly how the lives of human beings will be.
Allah says that some of you want this life and some of you want hereafter!
So there is either penalty for some and there is forgiveness of Allah for some and there is also the pleasure of Allah for some.this world is nothing but deception!
Prophet Muhammad salalaho ala'ihi wassalam had said that a man will normally live in duniya for 60-70 years and very few pass...However On the day of judgement people will feel as though this whole life in dunya was for few hours,when people will be asked how much time they spent in dunya, they will answer half an   hour,some will feel say about one hour...

DEATH=STILLNESS

Death is a fact which we are ignoring ! Death is a preacher.Who is the wise person? The one who is ready for death.death is just a door away,if you are ready then it is jannah if not hellfire,there is no middle way ,either this way or that!
Qullu nafsin zaikaaatul maut.the hisaab,the result will be on day of judgement.who is the winner who was prevented from Jahannam,hellfire and entered jannah.

Real Story :
Once a man was doing his tawaaf seven times around Kaaba when he saw  another man holding on to the kiswaa ,the cloth of Kaaba and making dua.He was pleading to Allah and saying that please let me die as a Muslim.So everytime the man crossed him he heard him making the same duaa so this man was puzzled and he went to ask the man on why was he making only this duaa .The puzzled man said to the pleading man ,that Alhamdulilah you have come to Mecca done your umrah,you should ask Allah to give you Jannatul Firdaus al Ala ,why are you instead asking to die only as a Muslim!
The man replied that I want to die only as Muslim as I lost my brother recently. My brother was a muadin of the masjid for 30 years for his life.  When he death bed, he asked us to bring the Quran.Then heopened the Quran and said I do not believe in it and died a disbeliever (huwa kafiron bihee ............AllahuAkbar!

The time of the death is the time of truth,whatever a person conceals in his heart is exposed at the time of death.A person may do all the best deeds when he is alive  and impress people but if in his heart he is doing just to earn praises of people,such a person will be exposed at the time of his death.

Allah describes in the Quran about the agony of death,how the Ruh leaves the body  in Surah Waaqiah.

Surah al waaqiaah: 56:83

فَلَوْلَا إِذَا بَلَغَتِ الْحُلْقُومَ
Why is it not then that when it (soul) comes up to the throat,
وَأَنتُمْ حِينَئِذٍ تَنظُرُونَ
And you at that time look on--
وَنَحْنُ أَقْرَبُ إِلَيْهِ مِنكُمْ وَلَٰكِن لَّا تُبْصِرُونَ
And We are nearer to it than you, but you do not see--
فَلَوْلَا إِن كُنتُمْ غَيْرَ مَدِينِينَ
Then why is it not-- if you are not held under authority--

When the Ruh comes out from the human body ,this is the time of sakarat al maut,the agony of death,the higher the degree of a righteous person higher is test in a pious person ,body also hurts,this pain expiates the person of any sin. Allah wants to expiate the sins such a person is relieved of any sin...
Even our messenger salalaho alaihi wassalam experienced the agony of death ,it is a very difficult time..
We know that ruh and nafs is loosely translated in English as spirit or soul but there is a difference between the two in Arabic language.when the soul is inside the body of a person then it is known as nafs but when it leaves the human body then it is known as Ruh.So Nafs is the spirit inside the body,and when the spirit comes out of the body it is known as Ruh.
When the person is dying,you will hear some voices near his throat  ( sounds like pigeons make),when it reaches hulqoo ( throat) ,everyone is looking at the beloved but Allah's angels are closer than the relatives but we cannot see it.
The dying person will say who will do ruqyaah on me,save me,as he knows he is leaving the world.At such time we should not be in a haste and pressurize the dying person to say la ilaahaa illal laah,instead we must be calm and gentle and slowly keep saying la ilaahaa ilalaah ,as we do not know what the dying person is seeing.He may be seeing many angels as far as his sight can go..

The prophets could talk to Malik ul maut,angel of death u. Once Prophet Yaqub alaihe  issalaam said to angel of death that before my death comes send me messengers to alert me of my death coming.So Yaqub alaihee esalaam struck a deal with the angel of death.When the time of his death approached,the angel of death said I have come to take your soul.
At this Yaqub alaihee essalam said why did you not send me messengers as agreed before.To this the angel of death replied ,you were sent so many signals by Allah to alert you.When your hair started greying this was a sign,when you started feeling weaker this was a sign...SubhanAllah!

We all know about Dawood alaih eSalaam ,how he was very particular about no stranger entering his palace.So when the angel of death entered his Fortress,his mihrab ,Dawood alaiheSalam  asked him how did you enter my Palace ?The angel of death replied that I am not afraid of any kings,no one can bribe me,no palace can stop me,even if you were in the strongest fotresses death will come.

During the time of Caliph Haroon Rashid islam was very strong,it spread from east to west and he had a very big empire.But at the time of his death ,he called all his soldiers,his ministers,family members and then said that all this empire that belongs to Haroon Rashid will perish but Ya Allah your mulk will never finish, so have mercy on me ya Allah.

Omar (RA) at the time of death said ,Woe on Omar and woe on his mother if Allah does not forgive him!

We don't know when will we die and which land we will die in?
Once Sulaiman alaihe esalaam had a guest and another guest also arrived and he was staring continuously at the guest to the extent that the other guest was freaked out and requested Sulaiman alihe esalaam to send him with wind to fly away to a far off land such as India. So the man rushed to India.The guest staring was the angel of death and he said he was staring at that man as Allah had asked him to take the guests soul in India so angel of death was wondering what is this person doing in bait al maqdus when he was supposed to be in India , SubhanAllah!

Person will be resurrected with his/her last deed done.......

Real Stories shared by different Shaikh for us to get ibraaa,lessons.
Once a very young man who had recently got married was playing his game of  football,when suddenly he said to his friends that he will leave as it was time for prayers.His friends said there is still time, he replied that he needs to shower and go to prayer,so he left the field with the intention to pray.When he sat in the car he felt uneasy and his friend got him a glass of water,before drinking the water he read his shahadah  and died...SubhanAllah.
Imagine how this person will be raised up on day of judgement !

Time of death is the time of truth, when the truth comes out,whatever is in the heart comes out,the person whom Allah wants will remain steadfast on the DEEN even in his final moments.But if a  person did all haraam things when he was alone and was doing halaal things to show people,then in his last moments of life Allah will expose this persons real deeds.Allah hu Akbar.

When the martyrs die for Allah's sake they are shuhadaah.prophet salalaho alaihi wassalm said that the shuhadaa is not necessarily only on battlefield,when a person dies from stomach disease,dies of burns,dies of drowning ,the niyyah is important.For egs if a woman wearing a bikini drowns in the sea ,she cannot be considered a shuhadaa! so the niyyah and intention is important to be considered a martyr.
also a women who dies in nifaas after giving birth to her baby is considered a martyr..when Allah sees khair, a person doing good deeds at time of death Allah gives such people opportunity to be on the straight path with Allah.When Allah loves a person even during the last deeds are nice deeds ,Allah let's them do it.

Causes for good ending:

1)THE CREED: AQEEDAH

Lailahaa ILLAHA with all it's part and conditions,it has to be the way of life,oneness of Allah in his tawheed,rizq,,everything only for Allah.we should know Allah by knowing his beautiful names,we should know how great Allah is by knowing his attributes,Allah is baseer ,HE sees,al khaaliq created everything,Allah knows us
Each of us is responsible for the knowledge of islam themselves,don't leave duniya without knowing your mission in life by not knowing your Creator don't leave this duniya without this great knowledge.The scholars of Islam who have the knowledge of Allah ,taste the sweetness of the Deen in Duniya before the hereafter!

Prophet salalalaho alaihi wassalam said that There will come a time when doing Haq following Quran and sunnah would be like holding a burning charcoal.

2) BEING FEARFUL OF ALLAH

By starting early,by sleeping early in night,by knowing our journey.no one will enter jannah by their deeds only by Allah's mercy,

3)BY BEING STEADFAST:

Allah says only those who say Our lord our Rab is Allah ,and they are steadfast on this.and all the angels will come to them and say don't be sad from past or be  afraid of future.We should nicely say la ilaahaa ilal laah , if they are pious Allah will make it easy.

4) ALWAYS THINK ABOUT DEATH:
Omar bin Abdul Aziz said that if one hour of a day passed by where he did not think about death then my heart becomes rotten.This means that every hour Omar would remember death.But look at ourselves today if for only one hour in a day we talk about death,everyone starts calling us boring,old fashioned etc. This should not be and we too like the Sahabah should always remember death..

5) BEING TRUTHFUL ALWAYS:
One of the branches of hypocrisy is by lying,prophet salalaho alaihi wassalam said.if this person talks he lies, if heis given amanah he will do khiyaanaah,when he promises he lies,this is wrong.

6) THINK GOOD OF ALLAH:
At time of death always think good about Allah. When the dying person is told that your ending is not good,then they will be miserable and will hate meeting Allah subaanaa wa ta'alaa.imagine when the dying person is shown that he will be going to hellfire due to his evil deeds ,would his soul leave the body easily,never ,it will try to hide as does not want to meet Allah az zawwajal.

7)) REPENTANCE :

real story: Once a young man was doing evil deeds in life,he went to the shaykh and confessed that he opened a website where all do wrong things,now he is feeling miserable about it,will Allah forgive him for this..so the Shaykh said that wait I have a letter for you from Allah.So the young man waited eagerly for this letter from Allah..So the shaykh wrote the following ayat from Quran and gave it to him:
Surah Zumar Aya 53:

قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَىٰ أَنفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِن رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ
Say: O my servants! who have acted extravagantly against their own souls, do not despair of the mercy of Allah; surely Allah forgives the faults altogether; surely He is the Forgiving the Merciful.

They have done evil deeds excessively that they don't remember the amount of sins they gave committed but don't close the doors of Allah's mercy on yourself,Allah is ghafur Raheem.Allah is most merciful.
Always repent with the niyyah of repentance ,at Taubah,the following are the conditions that one must have when they have wronged in Huquq Allah:
-To pluck the sin that you are doing; remove from your system fully.
-regret what you had been doing
-determination that I will not go back to the jahiliyaa

so the above is related to wrongdoing huquq Allah.

But if some one has done wrong regarding huquq of a person, then return it back to that person,seek apology from that person; if not then on the seeraat when a person is trying to pass,then there will be people standing asking for their Haq ,someone will complain about this person backbiting about him or oppressing him.At this time the person will have to be given his hasanaat until when the persons hasanat will be over and he will have to take the sins of that person which will be loaded..

8)) DUA:
Always asking Allah to keep you steadfast..and give you a good end..

9)) COMPANIONS:

Who are your companions,who do you sit with,who are you surrounded with,your friends are your mirror image,look at the kinds of your friends,either good or bad,your good friend is like that who sells musk and the bad friend is like the one who has black smoke always,remember the hadith ...

Whoever likes to behave like whichever community, quam then on aakhiraah they will be like them and will be with them...
This life for believer is like a prison...

When death comes it is a difficult time for the relatives and to the dying person...but Allah says when Any difficulty comes to a believer they say that innalaah wa innalaah rajion...at time of musibaaah make duaa..

When a lady died,the daughter thought of her mother ,missed her but later she...got mum in law who loved her so much..We are not allowed to wail at time of death,we should be patient.
We as Muslims should have a will.as Muslims we know that no one can change the rules of Allah.

If at the time of death,someone writes a will that don't do bidaa,he will advise  them,he will start his will saying ashahadu Allah ILLAHA illalah .then he will advise his family members to help the needy ,not to wail,etc

The best will was the will of our prophets:
Beautiful will that Ibrahim alaihe essalam advised his children,Yaqub advised his children...Allah chose this religion islam for you,don't die other than being a Muslim!
Alhamdulilah I am a Muslim, we don't need any sects,any ideals...yaqub alaihe salaam asked his sons Who will you worship after me...they all replied that We will worship the only lord,the lord of Ishaq,the lord of  ibrahim,the one and only Allah!
Nabi salalaho alahi wassalam  said that I never saw a miserable  scene which was worse than grave.He salalaho alaihi wassalam said that the graveyard is either a garden of jannah or it is hole of hellfire...
When Uthman RA used to see grave or the janazah then he would cry until he fell...he said that I heard messenger sallaho alai wassalam that the first destination of akhira is the grave ,if it is not good then from there it will be worse to worst.

Once Omar bin Abdul Aziz was at the graveyard, people asked him why did he take so much time.To this he said that the  graveyard was talking to me! the grave asked me don't you want to know what I did to the body of your beloved,I tore out the shroud,took out one part from the other,each limbs was pulled out and each hand was separated....SubhanAllah.
Omar RA would cry saying that our time in duniya is very short,time has  passed and time passes,the remaining Time will also pass,our bags should be ready with our deeds,the youth become old,the alive will die,the proud person will be deceived in this duniyaa...
Abu Darda used to say shall I tell you when will it be my poor day,the day I die,the family,wealth and deeds will follow till the graveyard but only the  deeds will remain.

Who are protected from trial of the Grave:

1) the martyrs:
Allah says that Don't think that the person who dies for sake of Allah is dead ,they are alive,they are not dead!
There is no ghusul for martyr ,no prayers. It's enough what they went through battle for sake of Allah.

Allah asks them what do you want more,then the shuhadaah say that please tell our family that not to be afraid of being shuhadaa..

2) Surah mulk recite every night.

3) Also asking refuge ,Allahumma inni audhibikaaa min fitnatil kabar.
4) Also those who die on Friday, during day or night would be protected from grave torture.

JOURNEY TO HEAVEN:

The story of soul to heaven, we know from what nabi salalaho alaihi wassalam taught us.all Sahabah were sitting then suddenly nabi salaalaho alaihi wassalm struck the floor thrice saying..Istaeedduu billah hi aazaabin kabar..

When a believing slave who is a righteous person,the announcement comes that he has to depart to the other world,this is the stage of barzakh,many angels come down,white face like shining beautiful,only the dying person can see till far that angels are filled up..these angels have shroud from paradise,pure silk pure white shroud from jannah..this shroud is with hanoodd from jannah ,the angels are sitting in front of him and the angel of death is sitting one the head,then the angel of death says oh good soul,ya ayuuhul nafsin mutameenaa,come out for Allah's pleasure,then the soul  of the pious person comes out slowly smoothly like a drop of water from a leather glass...then they wrap him with hanood.now the journey starts between earth and sky,filled with angels,the samawaat is filled with angels and some are in sujood or praying,then they smell the good soul and say what a nice soul ,they will call you with the best names,they will call you with the name you liked being called in duniya...every angel is going behind the janazah as an honour..there are seven heavens,So until, they reach to sidratul muntahaa,then Allah says that place the book of my slave in alileeeyeen.the honored people are registered in ileeyoun...

Now the journey of disbelieving person,the one who knew the Haq but was lazy did not repent...Rough black cloth,the angel of death says oh evil soul come out to the anger of Allah,what will happen to such a soul ,he will stick more to the body,someone who loves the duniya and did nothing for aakhiraah will not want to leave,like wet wool in the thorny twig ,or like barbequed meat on skewers which does not want to leave,how does such cold meat come out from barbecued skewers,like bits and  pieces of flesh falling out...Terrible smell heaven doors will not open,they will never enter paradise.

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By that time the family would have buried the person and have left.this is the last trial for the believer.munkar and nakeer will come.They will ask the three fundamental questions,who is your lord,what is your religion and who is your prophet? But who will pass this test,the one who lived in this world like a slave of Allah, you lived for your lord.In dunya either you will become slave of fashion,music or Allah.

In another narration the person says ashadu la ilaha then voice will come from heaven saying my slave has spoken the truth,Allah then says furnish him with things from jannah and expand 70/70 cubit and he also sees his palace and he sees what he has been saved from,he says that I want to go to my palace very fast,but Allah will say not yet,so such a pious soul will sleep like a new bride or groom in complete peace and tranquility, they are wearing cloth of jannah.

While the DISBELIEVER will hear the footsteps of his loved ones leaving him...he will not be able to answer the questions,so the angels will curse him and the voice cried out above him that he lied ,he ignored prophets sayings on duniya,the grave will be squeezed,it will compress his bones and it will be interlocked and the azaab begins....

When they are in kabar who will entertain the pious believer on the first night:

A man with beautiful face good smell will tell him that receive the glad tidings from Allah.may Allah bless you.so the deceased will ask who are you ,your face is so beautiful.he will answer I am your good deeds,I am your obedience to your  parents I am your sallaaaah,zakaah,saum..

For the DISBELEIVER the most ugly person with terrible stench will come,he will say I am your evil deeds,your lies,your bad deeds.you were slow in obeying Allah and quick in disobeying Allah.then Allah assigns a blind,deaf and mute angel who will strike this person with an iron rod which if used on a mountain it will become dust!Allahummaa aaudhi bikaa min adhaaaabi. Qabar.

TORMENTS OF GRAVE:

We know there is azaab in kabar,the reasons as told by our Rasullah salalaho alaihi wassalam is like a dream he had.the dreams of nabi salalao alaihi wasalam is truth,reality , is Haq:

Two men came and took nabi salalalho alaihi wassalam...then our nabi salalaho alaihi wassalam saw that the angels used a curved hook like instrument tearing the mouth nose to ears,continuously of a person.Rasul Salallaho alaihi wassalam  said what is this ,then angel says come come on.then they walked a further and he saw man's head being smashed on the head with a big rock,until the head is fixed back again,then the angels say come on come on,till he reaches a tandour,hot oven like, where men and women are inside naked, then they reach a red river where man is swimming till he reaches the shore,untill a man throws stones drowns until he swims again.....and this is a long Hadith

The angels then explain to the prophet about what it was.The Iron hook: this person was a liar,he used to say lies which would spread far and wide,so he would be tortured according to that.

Smashed by rock: this person Allah taught him Quran but he slept on it ,he missed his obligatory prayers.

People burning in tandour are those who are doing adultery in dunya.

Swimming in blood are people dealing with ribaaa,the interest of the bank.

 Nabi Salalaho alaihi wasalam  also saw tall men,  Ibrahim alaihe esalam with small children.He,salalaho alaihi wassalam, also saw palaces of believers.also saw his own palace and asked Gabriel to let him go but Gabriel said not yet!

Once nabi salalalaho alaihi wassalam was on his way to madina,when he heard the adhaab from kabar,in two kabar,one was due to nameemah,slander and the other was due to the person not being clean after urinating, not doing istinjaa after urine also another narration not covering during urine doing public.
Also he saw people with long nails and were eating flesh of their own body so these were the backbiters...

WHAT WILL BENEFIT THE DEAD PERSON:

Sadaqa jaariyaa: continuos charity like well, mosque, a resting place for traveller,Musaafir.,
Any kind of ilm, any ayah any knowledge you have taught the people.
A pious son ,righteous child who is brought up nicely so darajaaa ,ranks of the dead person gets higher and higher.

Hold the Quran and sunnah,our journey is yet to start ,our destination is aakhiraah, we are still in duniya we still have the time to do the deeds for that house,your neighbor is Ahmed,the sand is from musk the palace Is from gold,the Ruh is something ghaiby but when a person dies they will see everything.

Take advantage of five before five:

Your youth before the old age
Your good Health before the sickness
Your Wealth before Poverty
Your Time before you get busy
Your life before your death.